Sometimes it’s clear when a relationship or friendship begins to turn sour, but the subject is complex. A toxic relationship won’t always manifest itself in obvious forms such as intentional emotional or even physical abuse. The signs can often be much harder to read. It can be hard for partners to stop and ask themselves – am i in a toxic relationship? Those who already have should read on to see if these common themes sound familiar. If so, chances are the answer is yes.
Often one partner, friend, or co-worker speaks with assumed superiority or condescension. It typically expresses itself through either direct or indirect labeling of the other person’s faults without a similar acceptance of his or her own. Sometimes the person doing the shaming will try to pass these remarks off as jokes, but for those dealing with constant condemnation from someone who should be supportive, they just aren’t funny.
If one person in the relationship is harboring resentment toward the other, taking things personally when they aren’t intended that way, or constantly criticizing the other it’s a sure sign something is going wrong. They are harboring feelings of resentment, which often shows itself as a constant preoccupation with their own emotions without concern for how their expression might affect the other partner.
In a toxic relationship even good news can lead to a fight. Often one partner attempts to remain neutral or calm to avoid conflict, even to the point of failing to have their own emotional needs met. This can lead to a feeling that the next fight is always just around the corner and can make the person being attacked feel constantly ill at ease. All relationships come with their occasional disagreements, but if these lead to feelings of discomfort and leave one partner emotionally drained it is just not a good sign.
Feelings of Inadequacy
Trying to accommodate the other person’s needs is unlikely to be successful in any long-term way. Failure to avoid conflict and be seen in a more positive light can lead to one partner feeling that they just aren’t good enough. The bottom line is that there is one person who is responsible for a toxic partner’s mood and stability, and it is them.